“Dating truly can feel like a low-key gambling addiction,” says author and comedian Lane Moore in her new dating advice book, “You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up.”

“You don’t eat or sleep,” she writes. “You drink caffeine, and you stay up all night because you’re always playing to win. You don’t stop rolling the dice because something better is coming.”

Moore is very familiar with the pressures of online dating. For nearly a decade, she’s hosted a show called “Tinder Live” where she shares her online profile and allows the audience to vote on whether she swipes right or left.

She talked to WNYC’s Alison Stewart on a recent episode of “All Of It” about dating apps, awkward in-person encounters, red flags, dating fatigue and the societal pressure to find “the One.”

An edited version of their conversation is below.

Stewart: How has the dating app landscape changed in the past 10 years?

Moore: The only way I think it’s changed is that more people know about it and have exhaustion from it. You have people on it now who maybe were married when the apps first came out, and now they’re divorced.

Can you share one thing people should not put on their dating profile?

I genuinely believe that a lot of people don’t know how they’re being perceived. So one of the things that I would advise people is: Don’t yell in your profile. And it might seem like “of course, I’m not gonna yell on my profile!”

But I see yelling in a number of profiles — specifically for men who are like “FIRST OF ALL, NO SINGLE MOMS. DON’T BE UGLY. YOU BETTER SHAVE!”

What is this?! How is this a good foot to start off on? No one’s liking that, Jeff.

So just stop yelling in your profile.

Meeting people in real life was always awkward. It’s sometimes even more awkward now, given that people have been inside for a while. When do you know somebody’s actually flirting with you in real life?

It’s so hard to know because everybody’s different. For me, sometimes people think I’m flirting with them when I’m really just being nice or I’m anxious. I think that happens for a lot of women, where it’s like “oh, we’re just trying to be nice to you and not get murdered.” And then some men are like “this is flirting.”

I think a lot of times it’s body language. If somebody makes a lot of eye contact, for example. Most people don’t make a lot of eye contact.

Or if someone’s directly facing you. If they’re saying things that a friend really probably wouldn’t say. There’s no surefire way, but I think those are good things. And also, you can throw the ball back a little bit and try your own flirting.

And if they pick up on it? Great! If they brush past it, I guess they weren’t.

In your first chapter, you focus on the idea of spotting red flags. And that some things traditionally thought of as red flags maybe should be rethought. For example: It’s a red flag if he’s not close to his mom, or it’s a red flag if they’re not close with their family. You say this doesn’t have to be a red flag.

It really doesn’t. And I totally understand why we think this probably is a red flag. It’s not really about his relationship with his mom. We want to know that they have good relationships with women.

But not everybody is lucky enough to be blessed with a really close, wonderful family. Maybe his mom was not the best mom. Maybe he and his mom are estranged and there’s a possibility that he actually might be a better partner because he was able to sever contact with somebody who was hurtful to him. Maybe that experience gave him more empathy.

I don’t think we can write someone off because they didn’t get lucky enough to get the world’s best parents.

You give an example of what could have been a red flag and tanked a relationship, but then the couple ended up getting married, and have been for more than a decade.

Yes. So Brian was on his phone and she was like “what is this? You keep looking at your phone. Obviously, you don’t want to be here.”

He was just anxious and checking his phone nervously, but then realized “you know what? You’re right. I’ll put it away.”

And now they’re married, and it worked out.

But if she had instead been like “forget it,” hadn’t said anything, hadn’t spoken up — like a lot of us would have — just gone home and been like “ugh, he was on his phone the whole time. What a jerk. These men are trash.”

If she had done that, which would have been fair, there wouldn’t have been this moment.

I think it’s fair to call people out when you see stuff like that. Because maybe they’re just nervous. Maybe they didn’t even think about it, and this could be a really great person. Or, you call them out, they get defensive and weird. Great. Bye.

What are the pitfalls of having a checklist?

It’s so tough because a lot of times we think we know exactly what we want in a person, but sometimes the person you fall for is completely different.

And that’s not saying you should throw all of your wants and needs out the window, absolutely not. But sometimes we’re like “I want someone to look like this, act like this.”

Because sometimes a lot of things we put on that list, our person’s not going to have it. It’s not going to matter. We want a good person. Remember that more than anything.

You also write about falling in love with potential. And one of the people you profile in your book is a 43-year-old woman from Brooklyn named Sabrina who was about to move to Ireland to be with someone she’d never met. She fell in love online. What can we learn from Sabrina?

I think what happened with Sabrina is something that happens with so many of us, even if the other person isn’t abroad, but maybe they just live in a different borough.

We get so excited about a new relationship that we’re like “Oh, I bet he’ll do this! I bet this will happen, and our relationship will go like this.”

And we don’t stop to look at what they’re actually giving us because we’ve created this person who, you know, is maybe 10% who they actually are and 90% our own hopes and dreams.

I think for so many of us, particularly women, we spend so much time wanting to be chosen, wanting to be really good, that we’re not actually looking at what the other person’s giving us because we just want them to choose us.

In your book, you talk about a guy who had three names: his real name, his Brooklyn name and his sex name. How did that work? What was the point of that?

If I remember correctly, this was a person who was on some of the more adult matching sites, where they’ll put some of the more kink stuff on there. But he wasn’t forthright about it, which is the problem.

Like, you can do whatever you want! You could be as weird as you want, but you have to be upfront with a potential partner. It shouldn’t be like a “Law and Order” episode where they’re just uncovering clues every time they hang out with you. That’s not going to build trust.

I think maybe some people don’t want to show their true selves because they’re worried they’re going to be judged. But look, if it’s the right person for you, they’re going to be like “Ooh, you’ve got aliases, and you were honest about it, and you explained why you have aliases.”

As long as it’s not harmful or violent, you’re allowed to be any amount of weird, and the right person will be cool with it as long as you’re open and honest.

Anonymous in Brooklyn texts: “I really want to meet someone in real life in middle age. Ideas welcome!” Any thoughts?

So much of dating is luck and timing. So I would say two things: Just be more open to talking to people when you’re out.

I know so often, and especially for New Yorkers, we don’t really want to talk to anybody when we’re out. But there are so many people around us, and when you see an attractive stranger, instead of thinking “Oh, maybe I’ll match with them on an app,” what if you actually talked to them?”

Just give it a shot because you never know, and what if it works out great?

The other thing that I want to enforce in this book is that if you’re tired and you’re like “I don’t really want to go out” or “I’m too nervous” or whatever … sometimes it’s OK to rest and not put this pressure on ourselves that if we’re not out there trying and hustling and talking to every single person, we’re never gonna meet our person.

I really believe whoever is meant for you will find you, even if you need to sit at home for the next six weeks. When you’re ready to emerge, so will they be, and then you’ll meet them at the exact perfect moment.

Lane Moore will be at TV Eye in Ridgewood on Tuesday, Feb. 13, at 8 p.m. for her “Tinder Live ‘ Valentine’s Day special. You can learn more about her shows, writing and podcast at her website.